Dating serious men
Before we start talking about “Dating in Japan” one thing should be crystal clear: If you’ve ever been to Japan you might have noticed that there’s a tremendous number of (often not so handsome) foreign guys walking hand-in-hand with Japanese women. However, be warned: If you want to read about bragging stories of all those Western guys who get laid a hundred times per day, then you came to the wrong place. You certainly won’t find that here – and not from a foreign girl like me!In relationships where the man is foreign I noticed that they mostly speak his native language.Although they live in Japan and sometimes even have children together who also speak Japanese, the foreign guys don’t / can’t speak Japanese.Things that they fear a foreign woman would not agree to do (e.g.stay home, take care of the kids, always pour new alcohol into his empty glass etc.).I personally know a few couples where either the man or the woman is foreign and I noticed quite a lot of differences in the kind of relationship they have.
Foreign guys often seem to struggle with this system.
For some reason (maybe through the consumption of too many Hollywood movies) Japanese women think that foreign men are like that!
They’re not afraid of showing their feelings in public or telling their girls flat out how they feel about them. The extreme version of this is known as “gaijin hunter” and some will do everything for the sake of having one of those adorable “half”-kids (half Western, half Japanese) just to toss their foreign guy later on.
For foreign women it’s a completely different story.
Japanese men seem to expect certain things from a woman.