Online dating correspondence
My opinion about sexual transparency is practically heresy in the heterosexual dating advice world, where women are routinely admonished for letting it be known that they like sex.
Last week I read a piece written by a dating coach for the over-50 set.
Women are socialized to believe that men are jerks and men resent women scrutinizing them for covert jerkiness.
Where I do agree with dating coaches is on the importance of marketing.
As discussed in my previous post, traditional dating is based on physical proximity, with individuals choosing partners with whom they intersect frequently in everyday life, such as at work or school.
Once you decide that men are closet douchebags, this mindset will inform your interactions with them.If you want to attract someone who values sex as much as you, you need to do the very thing you've been taught to do: be transparent.I don't mean that you should post wet t-shirt photos and boast of your deep-throating skills.And I certainly don't mean that you should play down your intelligence, since the kind of man you most likely want to attract will also be turned on by your mind.But I mean that if you miss having hot morning sex before your hot morning coffee, then go ahead and say that. Are men such savages that they can't value a woman for more than the sum of her lady parts?