Online dating correspondence
Here are five reasons why you shouldn't play coy about sex in your online dating profile -- and why you should play it up instead. Is it so hard to believe that many men are as turned on by a woman's intelligence as they are by her body?
Once you decide that men are closet douchebags, this mindset will inform your interactions with them.
Below, I will present a list of possibilities, and look forward to your thoughts and feedback! Dating companies such as EHarmony and Ok Cupid argue that their proprietary compatibility algorithms enable users to sift through undesirable matches and identify the suitable ones.
EHarmony asks users to fill out extensive psychological questionnaires, many based on established personality scales.
While I agreed with most of her advice, I bristled as she urged women to "leave sex out of your profile" because "it gives men the wrong impression and encourages those you aren't interested in." My guess is that 99.9% of dating coaches would preach the same thing: AND you will attract men who are incapable of seeing women as anything more than penis receptacles.
I don't mean that you should post wet t-shirt photos and boast of your deep-throating skills.When it comes to values, attitudes, and beliefs, research supports the notion that long-term couples tend to be more similar with each other than random strangers.This is known as the similarity hypothesis, or the “birds of a feather flock together" effect.Since I've become intentionally sexually transparent in my dating profile, I haven't met any douchebags. Men like my profile because they know where they stand. My marriage ended for many reasons, but sexual incompatibility was at the top of the list. If you want to write a sexually transparent profile, go for it.The last thing I want, at 51, is another relationship in which I can't be myself sexually -- or to spend time with someone hoping that the sex will get better, then being disappointed when it doesn't. If a grown man is going to lose respect for me because I'm transparent about sex, then he isn't someone I want to be with anyway. The guy (or guys) you're meant to be with will appreciate it and you don't need to be concerned about the other ones anyway.